Perfectly Imperfect

The goal is not to be perfect; the goal is to be accepted for the imperfections.

Category: Family

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Picking up the broken pieces

Often times, we thought of broken heart as one of the most inconsolable pains in human experiences. I won’t refute that. I realised that it is not the moment when your heart was broken that is most painful; it is the picking up the pieces that hurts most.

Pain has a way to distort our rational thoughts. Shall I say, cognitive dissonance? What we know is that the relationship was once good. We felt happy. The same thoughts that once put a smile to our face, now flow the stream of tears down our cheeks. We are suddenly convinced that those are bad thoughts, and we adjust our behaviours to align with the new feelings.

Sometimes, we confuse missing someone with hating someone. It is okay to miss someone that we may never have in our life anymore. Let the truth be truth because it is sad to have to lie to ourselves.

Asperger’s Diary – Neurotypical Sibling

The Impossible Possibility – What if…

There were times when I indulged myself to the ‘what ifs’. What if, my sister had Asperger’s like me too? Would we be more alike? Would we share similar interests? Would we be able to understand each other better?

Now, have we also considered that perhaps my sister entertained that thought too? What if I were normal like her? Would we have played dress-up together? Would we have talked about boys to each other? Would we have gone shopping (we did, but not exactly most fun for either of us – she is very fickle minded, I am very decisive, and I hate window shopping, or shopping at all) and had more lunches together? Would we be the dynamic duo, whereby it was us against the world?

Asperger’s Diary – Rumination in Bubble World

[BIGGEST EVER $20 COUPON*!] SG 1 ROYAL JELLY♥ BOOST 3X RESULTS!♥ 35-DAYS UPSIZE♥ Made In AustraliaLIST.QOO10.SG I live in a bubble world of my own. I crave to connect with world out there; I desire for a soulmate who is the same and we will blow a bigger bubble to encompass our individual bubbles. When the bigger bubble is safe…

Asperger’s Diary – Time Dilution During Meltdown

Time concept changes for the person in the meltdown, and the person waiting. This post illustrates the differences and the possible outcomes. Some outcomes are undesired, and permanent. Meltdown is detrimental to any kind of relationship.

We must not confuse understanding the essence of the meltdown with the instinctive reactions to it. By illuminating the adverse effects of meltdowns, I hope to raise awareness in preventing meltdown than to manage it. Every meltdown can be potentially the last one because practise doesn’t make perfect.

Asperger’s Diary – The Aftermath of Diagnosis

The aftermath of a formal diagnosis for Asperger’s may bring out stages of emotional upheaval that we are not being prepared for. This is my story.

Perhaps only the people (especially the adults) on the autism spectrum could understand the importance of an official diagnosis. No matter how certain are we about our traits matching the described symptoms of being on the spectrum; despite the tons of ‘reliable’ online tests we take (and continue to take*) to validate our suspicion, we will never be 100% satisfied on our personal (intensive) researches and findings. We will always need solid proofs, and official acknowledgement and recognition. We cannot leave things to chances.

Asperger’s Diary – Asperger Movies

I am a tv series junkie, and my (legit and valid) justification for watching too much telly is to survive this world, this society, that rate a person primarily based on social performance and adequacy. Citing Bandura’s Social Learning Theory (observational learning), we learn through environment through the process of observation. For most of the people (at least true for…

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