Perfectly Imperfect

The goal is not to be perfect; the goal is to be accepted for the imperfections.

Category: Interpersonal

Asperger’s Diary – Sell Online with Our Talents

Many of us suffer from low self-esteem and self-confidence. Many of us produce brilliant artwork, but only a small handful of us take the plunge to put a price tag on our work.

You can defend on a prided high ground, but I don’t buy it. Don’t tell me that ‘selling’ your art is ‘cheap’ or demeaning. When you are 25 years old, and you are still depending on the State handouts or pocket money from parents, and you have to ask your parents to buy you things that you want, tell me again that you don’t want to be financially and personally independent.

Asperger’s Diary – Neurotypical Sibling

The Impossible Possibility – What if…

There were times when I indulged myself to the ‘what ifs’. What if, my sister had Asperger’s like me too? Would we be more alike? Would we share similar interests? Would we be able to understand each other better?

Now, have we also considered that perhaps my sister entertained that thought too? What if I were normal like her? Would we have played dress-up together? Would we have talked about boys to each other? Would we have gone shopping (we did, but not exactly most fun for either of us – she is very fickle minded, I am very decisive, and I hate window shopping, or shopping at all) and had more lunches together? Would we be the dynamic duo, whereby it was us against the world?

Asperger’s Diary – Rumination in Bubble World

I live in a bubble world of my own. I crave to connect with world out there; I desire for a soulmate who is the same and we will blow a bigger bubble to encompass our individual bubbles. When the bigger bubble is safe enough, we burst our bubbles to be one. Poetic, isn’t it? Therapy¬† Like my autism, seeking…

Asperger’s Diary – Train Myself to Train Other NTs

The Keen Passion I have always wanted to study psychology. It’s no surprise. Long before I was¬†formally diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome Disorder, I have always knew I am painfully different (I am trying to make a distinction here to dismiss the trendy ‘different’ used by people who desperately want to be unique). Being different has been painful, because the majority…

Asperger’s Diary – Time Dilution During Meltdown

Time concept changes for the person in the meltdown, and the person waiting. This post illustrates the differences and the possible outcomes. Some outcomes are undesired, and permanent. Meltdown is detrimental to any kind of relationship.

We must not confuse understanding the essence of the meltdown with the instinctive reactions to it. By illuminating the adverse effects of meltdowns, I hope to raise awareness in preventing meltdown than to manage it. Every meltdown can be potentially the last one because practise doesn’t make perfect.

Asperger’s Diary – The Aftermath of Diagnosis

The aftermath of a formal diagnosis for Asperger’s may bring out stages of emotional upheaval that we are not being prepared for. This is my story.

Perhaps only the people (especially the adults) on the autism spectrum could understand the importance of an official diagnosis. No matter how certain are we about our traits matching the described symptoms of being on the spectrum; despite the tons of ‘reliable’ online tests we take (and continue to take*) to validate our suspicion, we will never be 100% satisfied on our personal (intensive) researches and findings. We will always need solid proofs, and official acknowledgement and recognition. We cannot leave things to chances.

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