Perfectly Imperfect

The goal is not to be perfect; the goal is to be accepted for the imperfections.

Tag: emotions

The Different Personas

For most people, there are the public and private personas – how you behave and be perceived in private and in public. I have two personas too, but not differentiated by these two categories. Some Friends Said… When I was being assessed for Asperger’s, now subsumed under Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), I sought out my old friends from my childhood and…

Loneliness

Once in a while, logic is put at the back burner, and emotions take over resulting in the overwhelmingly deep sense of loneliness deriving from a collision of rational reasoning and engulfing emotions. An overdrive of emotions yet leaving a sense of emptiness.

The dichotomy of emotions and rationality works like a switch, and there is also an emergency trip switch. Overwhelming and confusing emotions set off anxiety, and anxiety trips the emergency switch to high rational mode. In order to maintain functionality, we talk facts and logic, which can be unacceptable. Imagine this, when someone in your life dies, the only thing you could do was to talk about normality of life cycle – birth and death. It’s a way to explain the particular event – death – to make sense of what is happening; but it would be considered as highly insensitive and inappropriate. Our difference in coping methods divides us in times like this. There should be no right or wrong way to cope, yet our response would be considered offending.

Asperger’s Diary – Time Dilution During Meltdown

Time concept changes for the person in the meltdown, and the person waiting. This post illustrates the differences and the possible outcomes. Some outcomes are undesired, and permanent. Meltdown is detrimental to any kind of relationship.

We must not confuse understanding the essence of the meltdown with the instinctive reactions to it. By illuminating the adverse effects of meltdowns, I hope to raise awareness in preventing meltdown than to manage it. Every meltdown can be potentially the last one because practise doesn’t make perfect.

Ben & Sophie – Short story inspired by true event

“Ben & Sophie, Hide & Seek” is a short story inspired by true love story between two people on the Autism Spectrum – Asperger’s Syndrome.

Falling in love is an intense process for anyone, more so for people on the spectrum. Aside from not being able to pick up the subtle social cues, people on the spectrum are poorly skilled, if any at all, to express themselves accurately.

Although a brief introduction, I attempt to illustrate the wide spectrum of emotions such as uncertainties, affections, fears, love, sorrow, helplessness, support, courage etc.

Asperger’s Diary – Hope for Compassionate Nation

A New Perspective Having spent some time in Denmark, and ‘mingled’ with people on the autism spectrum, met and heard about the work of the social workers and psychologist, and being back in Singapore where continuous sensory overload is present even in the ‘comfort’ of home, I start to ponder over and evaluate this nation and society I am bred…

Social Scripts and Anxiety Management

In one of the lectures, the lecturer talked about ‘Social Scripts’. My face said it all, she said, ‘Lis doesn’t know what is social scripts’. Apparently, most of us didn’t know! We must have missed that part of the other module, taught by the same lecturer. It turned out, I just didn’t know the term ‘Social Scripts’, but I am…

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