Perfectly Imperfect

The goal is not to be perfect; the goal is to be accepted for the imperfections.

Tag: love

Time and Food

I am working on a new design – see the sketch – and one thing led to another (as always!), I see a relationship between time and food, more accurately, the duration of our life span and concept of food. Abundance vs. Scarcity When we were young, we made (probably still making) the same mistake in assuming that we still…

I Am Made of Chinese Shows

I don’t really watch Chinese shows or other Asian TV shows, but when I do watch, they are usually in the category of pugilistic films, or with strong historical extracts. I am attracted to the elaborated costumes and setups, and the use of proper Mandarin for that era. Imagine it as the Chinese version of Victorian times, the way the sentences were…

Picking up the broken pieces

Often times, we thought of broken heart as one of the most inconsolable pains in human experiences. I won’t refute that. I realised that it is not the moment when your heart was broken that is most painful; it is the picking up the pieces that hurts most.

Pain has a way to distort our rational thoughts. Shall I say, cognitive dissonance? What we know is that the relationship was once good. We felt happy. The same thoughts that once put a smile to our face, now flow the stream of tears down our cheeks. We are suddenly convinced that those are bad thoughts, and we adjust our behaviours to align with the new feelings.

Sometimes, we confuse missing someone with hating someone. It is okay to miss someone that we may never have in our life anymore. Let the truth be truth because it is sad to have to lie to ourselves.

Asperger’s Diary: Homosapiens’ Love and Human Nature

Human Nature – Learned and Automated Responses

Let’s dabble in the subject on Human Nature a little bit. By the time you finished reading the story, you may be formulating your own judgement and conclusion, yes?

See, that is human nature. We think that this story is about a problem needed to be fixed, but this is really just a story needs to be examined and understood.

Human nature, sometimes generally grouped as primal instinct, is based largely on precedent assumptions – learned behaviours. A grossly overrated excuse for poor behaviours or reluctance in personal growth.

We are attracted to the opinionated other until we are in love and a different opinion suddenly becomes an opposing tool because it’s unbearable to think he/she thinks otherwise. When we accept that the change in chemistry is actually a good thing, and acknowledge that such change is only because two people care so much about each other; we will not see difference as difference, but as interestingness; like it has always been. Un-break the broken nature, embrace the wisdom of broadening the perception, and looking at the larger picture, then, love abounds!

Asperger’s Diary – Hope for Compassionate Nation

A New Perspective Having spent some time in Denmark, and ‘mingled’ with people on the autism spectrum, met and heard about the work of the social workers and psychologist, and being back in Singapore where continuous sensory overload is present even in the ‘comfort’ of home, I start to ponder over and evaluate this nation and society I am bred…

Aspie Love is like the weather now – Foggy and Imaginary

Did you do the usual Merry Christmas and Happy New Year countdown? Personally, counting down is only meaningful when doing it with someone you at least think will spend the rest (or at least foreseeable future) of your life together. Recap the things that have been done in the year, the progresses, the setbacks. The lessons. I did that in…

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